30 Jun How to Stop People Pleasing: Break Free and Reclaim Your Life
How to stop people pleasing…
Do you say “yes” when you want to say “no”? Feel guilty putting your needs first? You’re not alone. Many high-achieving professionals and sensitive individuals struggle with people pleasing; a pattern that can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and loss of identity. People pleasing is an act of gross self-neglect, however many of us have been taught that putting our needs first is selfish, so battle internal feelings of guilt around saying no, lead to prioritising other people’s needs above our own. This generational toxic habit gets passed down to children, until someone breaks the cycle.
If you’re searching for how to stop people pleasing, here’s how to start changing this deeply ingrained habit.
Why Do We People Please?
People pleasing often stems from:
- Childhood conditioning to seek approval and be compliant
- Fear of conflict or rejection
- Low self-worth or perfectionism
- Trauma or past experiences
Understanding the root of your behaviour is the first step to lasting change.
Practical Tips to Stop People Pleasing
Here’s how you can start breaking the habit:
- Pause Before You Answer: Give yourself permission to say, “Let me get back to you,” rather than instantly agreeing.
- Practice Saying No: Start small. Decline minor requests to build confidence.
- Check Your Body: Notice physical tension when you feel pressured to say yes.
- Question Your Motives: Are you helping out of genuine desire or fear of disapproval or rejection?
- Set Clear Boundaries: Communicate limits calmly and firmly without over explaining.
- Prioritise Your Needs: Make self-care a priority and non-negotiable.
If you’re struggling with these practical steps that’s where I come in…
How Hypnotherapy and EFT Can Help
People pleasing isn’t a conscious habit, it’s often driven by subconscious beliefs and emotional triggers. That’s why hypnotherapy and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can be powerful tools.
Through hypnotherapy, we can identify and reprogram subconscious patterns, helping you feel safer expressing your true self. EFT is a simple technique I can teach you to help release the anxiety and guilt that surface when you try to set boundaries.
If you’re ready to finally stop people pleasing and reclaim your confidence, click here to learn more about how I work with clients using hypnotherapy and EFT.
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