09 Jun Why Am I Promiscuous? Understanding the Father Wound Link
If you’ve ever wondered ‘Why Am I Promiscuous?’, maybe I can help you connect some dots…
As Father’s Day approaches, many high-achieving professionals quietly wrestle with deep emotional wounds. One of the most common yet misunderstood behaviours linked to unresolved trauma is promiscuity.
What’s Really Behind Promiscuity?
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why am I promiscuous?” the answer may be rooted in childhood experiences—specifically, trauma from the father wound. This is the emotional injury caused by an absent, unavailable, critical, or emotionally detached father.
How the Father Wound Shows Up in Adulthood:
For many, especially those raised without a nurturing paternal presence, promiscuity becomes a coping mechanism:
- Seeking external validation through sex or attention
- Confusing intimacy with approval
- A subconscious drive to “prove” you’re lovable or wanted
- Using sex to fill a void or regulate emotional pain
I did all the above!
My Personal Journey:
Having an emotionally unavailable father, complicit with an abusive mother, led me to seek sex and ‘validation’ from men. Aged 15 I experienced intercourse with my first boyfriend, and after being unceremoniously dumped 3 months into our relationship the rejection hit hard. Fuelled by a desperate need for approval, acceptance and intimacy, I began having sex with men, many over twice my age. I combatted the fear of rejection by making sure I had plenty of men on the go, never growing emotionally attached to any. I fell in love aged 22, and everything changed I wanted intimacy with no one else but him. It was a dysfunctional relationship, which left me broken when it ended. Aged 25 I became a sex worker for a decade, so it’s fair to say promiscuity is a subject I have experience in personally and professionally.
It wasn’t until 2020 when I trained in Inner Child Healing that I understood the depth of my ‘father wound’ and combining it with my hypnotherapy tools I was able to begin my healing journey to allow me to facilitate romantic relationships that nourish me. This is why I’m so passionate about helping others heal.
Gendered Expressions of the Father Wound:
For Women:
- Tendency to chase emotionally unavailable partners
- Seeking worthiness through physical connection
- Struggling to feel “enough” without male attention
For Men:
- Difficulty with emotional intimacy
- Equating sexual conquest with self-worth
- A need to dominate or perform to feel validated
Healing the Root, Not the Symptom
You are not broken. Promiscuity is often a symptom—not the cause—of deeper unmet needs. My approach integrates:
- Hypnotherapy to access and reframe core beliefs
- Inner Child Healing to heal father wounds
- Coaching to explore patterns and set boundaries
- EFT (Tapping) to release emotional pain from the body
- Therapy to support long-term self-worth and emotional safety
If Father’s Day feels heavy, know that healing is possible. You don’t have to stay stuck in these patterns.
👉 Work with me to begin healing your father wound and reclaim your self-worth, with compassion and powerful tools tailored to you.
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